3 things to do before making your new year’s resolutions

It’s that time of the year again! Some people will tell you not to bother making any new year’s resolutions because you won’t keep them. But hey, don’t listen to them! It’s good to hang on to hope – the hope that next year, you will keep your resolutions. Imagine a world without hope. Imagine if you just gave up (like those people who tell you not to bother because they themselves have lost hope) and lived without any purpose. What a sad world that would be! So go ahead, make your new year’s resolutions for 2020, but make sure you do these 3 things before you make your resolutions for 2020.

  1. Be clear what your desired results are and focus on them.

It’s not enough to say you want to eat better, live healthier, exercise more, save more money or find your soulmate. Those are just actions. To increase your chances of sticking to your resolutions and making them happen, you have to know the “why” behind your resolutions. Why do you want to eat better? Why do you want to live healthier? Why do you want to exercise more? Why do you want to save more money? Why do you wish to find your soulmate?

As they say, the key to motivation is motive so why are you resolving to do all that? A clear result could be to live longer so that you can enjoy more time with your beloved friends or family. Or you’d like to exercise more because you want to have more energy to work on a side hustle. Or you’d like to live healthier so that you will feel better everyday. Or you want to save more money so that you can enjoy a well-deserved vacation at the end of the year. Or you want to find your soulmate so that you can enjoy a life that is connected soulfully with another individual. It helps to be clear about your desired results.

Better still, translate your results into a picture. What picture of yourself will motivate you to always remember why you are resolving to do something or be something? It could be a picture of your favorite vacation spot, a super fun party you went to with your friends and family, or a time when you accomplished a huge challenge in your life. The more personal your photo is, the better! Place the photo somewhere you can see it everyday – such as on your phone as a screensaver; or on your desk top.

2. Embrace everything, good or bad, that happened last year because they were a part of your growth process. 

Don’t discount your past as a write-off. And don’t beat yourself up over your weaknesses. Whether good or bad, your past has shaped you. Learn more about yourself, your strengths and weaknesses from them. You may have binged too much; or spent too much money. That’s all ok. Embrace your past because they teach you about your strengths and weaknesses. If your resolution is to eat healthier, take a look at your past binging episodes. You now know what the cause of all that binging was. You will know your moments of weaknesses. You will know what activities, places, situations, or persons to avoid, spend less time with; or spend more time with. If you spent too much money and your resolution is to now save more, you will gain valuable insight into when you tend to spend too much and prepare yourself for those times. You will know what you tend to spend on, and avoid or do less of those things. If your resolution is to find your soulmate, your past failed relationships will get you closer to the one who is right for you.

3. Remember, this is your story.

Remember, your resolutions are about you, and they are a part of your life story. Don’t compare yourself or your progress with others around you. Social media is a bad influence in that respect, by the way. Who cares what someone else you don’t even know (and who doesn’t know you) think? You are the perfect person to be whom you are meant to be. That includes your pace, your vocation, your destiny, your journey. Take your time to discover and uncover your story as the new year begins. This is about YOUR desired result. This is about YOUR life lessons, good and bad. And this is YOUR journey. So step out boldly, make your resolutions, and have fun pursuing them!